Unconscious Identities That Keep You Stuck (and the Powerful Ones You Can Choose Instead)

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Maybe it's deeper love or vibrant health. And here's what I love. Every single woman who was on the masterclass said that they know there's more inside of them, whether it's more power, more possibility that they have more to be expressed and lived. And if you're listening to this podcast, then I'm guessing you probably feel that way too.

At some level, we'll always kind of feel a sense of that because there never gets to a place in our life where we've manifested all the things that we desire, and we just live happily ever after without any more desires, right? We're always kind of evolving into the next version of ourself. So today I wanna talk about the sneaky identities that might be running your life without you even realizing it, and then some of the powerful identities that you could choose instead.

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That's just kind of what's running the show. Because here's the thing, you don't manifest from your desires. We manifest from our identity. You can want all the love, all the money, all the confidence. But if you're walking around with an energetic identity that says things like, I'm behind or I'm too much, or I can't trust myself, then that's a frequency, that's a vibration that you're recalibrating too all the time.

It's kind of like a thermostat. I gave that example during the masterclass. You might say you want 80 degrees of ease and abundance, but if your self-concept is set to 68, then things are just gonna keep recalibrating there because no matter how hard you hustle, no matter how many affirmations you tap to your mirror, that's where your thermostats set and that's where we keep recalibrating to.

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And honestly, it's usually easier to point these out on other people. Like I can tell you in five seconds the identity that my mom is operating from. Right? And don't worry, I won't tell you, but I could. And she doesn't listen to this podcast, so she probably wouldn't even know. But anyway, I digress. The thing is that often we can look out there and we can see what other women are doing, other women in our life, and we can spot these identities so quickly, but they can be a little sneakier when we're looking at our.

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Now she sounds like everyone else comes first. I just don't have time for me. I'm exhausted, but you know what? It's fine. It's fine. This is just what it means to be a good mom, a good daughter, a good caretaker. The martyr, she's selfless to a fault, but underneath, she's very resentful and she's running on empty.

Okay, now I want you to feel into the striver. Her energy says if I just do more, if I achieve more, if I prove more, if I succeed harder, then I'll finally feel like enough. And for her, it's like one more certification, one more win, one more notch on the belt, and then I can rest. But here's the thing with her, the truth is.

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She's overwhelmed, she's scattered, and she probably cracks jokes to just like kind of cover up the shame. Even though she's brilliant, she has so much potential, she's stuck in this loop of chaos. Okay, the next identity I want you to settle into is, oh, the settler and her voice says, this is just how life is.

I mean, I should be grateful, right? My, my family's healthy. I have a pretty house. I have a good job. Who am I to want more? I should just, I should just be happy. And she downplays her desires. She keeps a peace and she quietly swallows her dreams. They kind of just quietly go to the back burner. I. Because part of her still believes that reaching for more is selfish and unrealistic.

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Now this one runs really deep and her energy is, I've been through so much. I can't expect life to be easy. I have to stay on guard. I have to be prepared. I have to protect myself. So she is strong of fears, but she is so damn tired because she's been living in this like hyper vigilance for years, often, even decades, and she's just exhausted.

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Any of these because the identities got you here. They got you here where you are currently, but they're not gonna take you to your next level. They're not gonna take you to your full potential. And honestly, none of these are your truth. They're none of them are who you are at your core. They're just kind of states of being.

They're states of emotional being that we've been rehearsing over and over and over and their identities that we've learned. Often they've been inherited from our families and we learn from our moms. Some are kind of survival mode and many come from culture too. We do come from a culture where. It's kind of frowned upon for women to stand in their power to claim their full potential.

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So one of my favorite teachers, Neville Goddard, you hear me talking about him a lot.

He says, man's life will not change until his concept of himself changes. And I see this all the time with a woman I work with. They're smart, they're powerful women who've built beautiful lives on paper, but inside they're stuck in a loop, like a loop of proving, of pleasing, of feeling like there's something more that they just can't reach.

And what I always say is, of course you feel that way because we haven't given ourself the space or the permission to really open up and stand in our full power,

your full potential self. She's not some fantasy version of you. You don't get there when you lose 10 pounds or have a bigger bank account. She's here now. She's just buried under old programming and we have to connect with her now. So let's play a little, 'cause you know, I'm very sematic and I always like to like bring this back to the body,

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How would you be making decisions? What doesn't she tolerate anymore? That's a big one. This is a really, really important one to ask yourself because that version of you who is standing in her power and super successful and living that soul aligned life, there's a lot of things she's not gonna tolerate anymore.

Because what happens is once you shift your identity your entire life, it recalibrates to match it. This isn't an attunement, it's like a, it's like a fine tuning a violin, and it's really important that we don't shame our past identities, ? Because we've all played the striver and the hot mess and the settler, and many of us have gone through some really hard shit.

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I do know something about you. I know that you feel there's some friction, right? That pull between who you've been or who you've been showing up, who's got you here, and who you know, you could be that potential that you know is inside you. And that's that little like, uh, it's like scratching beneath the surface that's saying there's more in me.

Like I have more power, I have more impact. I have more truth. Like there's just more. And here's the thing, you're absolutely right. That version of you, it's not a fantasy. It's not in your imagination. It already exists, and that's why you feel that friction, because you're just out of alignment with her.

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Here's a few, and I want you to again, feel how these land in your body. Is there like a, Ooh, yeah, I know. I have some of that in me. The first one is the visionary, and she is not just setting goals, she's seeing the future. She walks into a room and you can feel her clarity, you can feel her direction and her knowing.

And she would say something like, I don't just build a business. I lead a movement. She knows the impact that she's here to make. The next one is the create and she channels beauty, emotion, and divine energy into everything she touches. And she would say something like, my work moves people. I don't need a massive audience.

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This is a really powerful identity and one, one of the things I love about this is when we step into these identities, we give others permission to step into their power too. Okay? The, the last identity I wanna go through is the Phoenix. Now she has walked through fire and she does not pretend otherwise,

and she would say something like, my story doesn't define me. It fuels me. I rise stronger every time. And notice the difference between the Phoenix and the survivor. They've both been through challenges. They've both been through the fire, but it's such a different vibration, ? All right, so I just want you to like kind of take a breath, wiggle it out, and feel those in your body and ask yourself not from your head.

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She's already inside of you. The thing is that we play small for so long that it's easy to forget what it feels like to stand in our power. But luckily you can step into any of these vibrations, any of these identities. Anytime you choose, it's simply a matter of focus. And here's the amazing part because I know these identities, they might sound a little woo woo.

I'm talking about vibration, but here's the science part. Your brain and your body, they do not, they literally do not know the difference between when you're rehearsing something or when you're imagining something and reality. And this is really, really powerful because it means that

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It changes what we're able to perceive. It changes so much stuff, and then when that happens, kinds of magical shit starts to happen. That's when people start saying, Hmm, something's like really different about you. And when opportunities and random connections and clarity, they just become to flow. And it's not because you've chased them, it's because you become the woman who naturally attracts them.

It's really when life gets magical and it's important to know that this isn't a state we get to, and then like never vacillate or never go back to any of those unconscious identities again. It's kind of like a fine tuning. It's where we're. Coming in and out of alignment where we're coming into our power and then getting thrown off course by a shitty driver who cuts us off or by an unexpected bill, right?

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Do you feel like you have more potential living inside you, more that's ready to be born? And I wanna know is to a yes. Because honestly, I believe we all do, and I think it's time for all of us to just stop playing small and step into our fucking power.

You don't have to hustle to get there. You just have to remember who the fuck you are. Alright? Love. Also, if this resonated with you, share it with a friend. Share it with someone who needs to listen to it. Maybe someone who you see is operating in these unconscious identities like your mom. Right? Share it with them.

Alright friend, thank you so much for being here with me this week, and until next time, keep manifesting an epic life. Bye love.