The Power of Celebrating Small Wins: How to Build Momentum in 2025

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Welcome to the Magnetic Creator Podcast.

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I'm your host, Melanie Mishler, and each

week we have intimate conversations about

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the things that matter most in life.

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My superpower is helping you

remember who you truly are,

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a powerful, magical creator.

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I give you proven tools to help you

get unstuck and manifest a life that

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sets your heart on fucking fire.

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Are you ready?

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Let's go.

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Hello, hello, my beautiful friend.

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Welcome back and happy new year.

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I can't even believe it's already 2025.

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Can you believe it?

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I was thinking about this and it

feels like It was just yesterday when

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that whole COVID fiasco happened and

here we are five full years later.

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And I don't know about you, but

for me, I noticed time flying

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by more quickly every year.

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Maybe it's because my daughter's older

now, but it seems like when we get

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to milestones like five or 10 year

markers, and so now we're now we're

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at the five year marker of something

that really, uh, took us all by storm.

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It's really easy to look back

and see how far we've come.

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And also to see the

places where we are still.

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stuck, right?

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The places where we might have

continuously set New Year's goals

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or set visions for ourselves

that just keep getting stuck.

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Or maybe we're, we're creating the same

New Year's resolutions over and over

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or just not getting traction on the

things that are really important to us.

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So today I actually had an episode

planned, but this morning in

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my meditation, I was inspired

to completely change it up.

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So if today's episode speaks to you, I

want you to know that I'm recording this

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This is a time when most of us

are making plans, making visions,

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goals, New Year's resolutions.

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All of those things for our new year.

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And what's really interesting

is that for most people, they'll

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set these really big goals or

really big New Year's resolutions.

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I know I have been very guilty of this

in the past, but they don't create

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the foundation or the scaffolding

in order to support them, which is

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why so many New Year's resolutions

And I'm not sure if you know this,

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but there's actually a date for it.

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The second Friday in January is

called National Quitters Day.

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It's basically the day when most people's

New Year's resolutions fizzle out, right?

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Right now is the time when everyone's

joining the gym and joining weight loss

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programs and big things for the year.

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And if you go to the gym,

all the classes are full.

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And by the end of January, the

classes are back to normal, right?

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So today I want to talk to you about

something that's really important

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that will help you hold your visions

and maintain momentum towards those

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important goals, instead of having

them fizzle out like everyone else's.

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And friends, this concept is so

simple, but I want you to stick with

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me because it's so fucking powerful.

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And I will get into the science behind

this because very often what happens

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is when we have very simple tools, we

tend to overlook them because we think

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they're not really important or we don't

understand what's happening in our brain.

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And today what we're talking

about is celebrating small wins.

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And I mean tiny wins, tiny baby

steps of progress towards our goals.

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I'm talking about

celebrating every damn thing.

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Here's why this is important.

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I'm going to use myself as an example

of how I used to set New Year's goals

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or set resolutions, or it doesn't

even have to be a New Year's goal.

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It can be any goal.

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A couple of years ago, I set a goal to

go to the gym, lose weight, get in shape,

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be more healthy, all the things, right?

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And what would happen is the days

when I would schedule the gym and

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then it would come time for me to

go and I decided, I'm just so tired.

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I'm going to go tomorrow instead.

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And I would not follow

through with myself.

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What would happen is I would get these

feelings of guilt, disappointment, maybe

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a little shame, kind of embarrassment

that I'm not following through on myself.

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All of those things But then on the

other hand, the times when I actually

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did show up when I woke up at 6 a.

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m.

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and drug my ass to the gym and showed up

fully, I didn't so much as acknowledge

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or give myself a high five or a

good job or any kind of celebration.

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I just kind of let it go.

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And many, many people do this, not just

with a gym, but with any kind of goal

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or vision that we have for ourself.

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We have a tendency to focus on what's not

working, to focus on the areas where we're

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falling short instead of celebrating the

small successes, instead of celebrating

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our progress and building momentum.

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And what happens is the more we

practice beating ourself up, not

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encouraging ourselves, talking

shit to ourselves, all the things,

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the more likely we are to quit.

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Whereas, on the other hand, the more we

celebrate, the more likely we are to gain

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momentum and keep going towards our goals.

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Now, I'm going to break this

down for you really simply, okay?

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Because if you are a mom, or maybe

an auntie, or anyone Who's ever

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potty trained a toddler or supported

a toddler as they learn to walk.

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Here's the thing.

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We do a little celebration every

time they use the bathroom, right?

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I know when my daughter was young,

we did this little happy dance

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every time she used the potty.

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We sang a song and did this

dance and let me tell you.

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If you can celebrate your kid not

shitting in their pants, then you

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can celebrate your small wins, right?

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The same thing with when your

child's learning to walk.

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Every time they fell down or every time

they stumbled, you didn't look at them and

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say, you're never gonna fucking get this.

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Like this is pointless, forget it.

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This is a hopeless case.

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No, we encourage them.

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We know that mastery

comes from repetition.

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So the funny thing is that we know

this intuitively when we're teaching

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our toddlers how to use a bathroom

or teaching them how to walk.

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But for ourselves, as we get

older, we tend to focus on our

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shortcomings, the things that

aren't working versus the steps that

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we're taking towards our success.

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But when we flip that script, when we

start really celebrating the tiniest

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little wins, then we build momentum.

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And what we do is we build

resiliency in our brain, and then

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we can take this and we can overlay

the confidence that we build.

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And we can overlay this on

other parts of our life.

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And then over time what happens

is because of the neuroplasticity

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in our brain, it rewires itself.

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Our brain is always rewiring itself,

but this creates a success mindset where

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our brain starts to get wired to expect

progress and achievement instead of

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disappointment in ourself, instead of

sitting in shame and all of those things.

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And it almost like creates a

fabric or a template for our

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brains for our future success.

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And then what happens is as we're

acknowledging these small wins, it's

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wiring ourself, it's shifting our brain's

attention from what's not working, which

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creates stress, to what is working,

which is that positive response.

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I want you to remember that our

brains are very primitive still.

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They're wired to look for danger,

to look for stress, to look for

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anything that could harm us.

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And when we are beating ourself up

for not following through, when we're

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sitting in shame and all of those

things, that is a stress response.

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It's building strength in that

stress response within our brain.

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But when we celebrate, just like a

child learning to walk, every time

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you celebrate, they get stronger,

they build confidence, and it

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encourages them to keep going.

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So I want you to think of your New

Year's goals like you're fucking

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potty training yourself, okay?

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We're going to celebrate every tiny win.

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And next, I want to give you a tool

that my coach taught me a few years ago,

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and to this day I use it all the time.

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She called it the ah list.

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And basically, you write down.

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All of your accomplishments,

anything that you're proud of

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yourself for accomplishing.

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And for me, it wasn't just

about my accomplishments.

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It was also about surviving

certain traumas, overcoming things.

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Being adaptable to certain things.

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All of that stuff got on my all list.

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And what you do is when you create

this list, I want you to just go back

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through your life from your childhood

and write down anything that you

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think is an accomplishment, anything

that you're proud of yourself for

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doing, anything that you overcame

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and then once you have this, you can

look at it and you can use this as a

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template for your future successes, right?

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reminds us that not only can we overcome

challenges, but that we're really fucking

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capable, that we can do hard things,

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that we can set and reach goals.

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And what happens very often is that

we'll set a bunch of goals and we'll

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have progress towards our small ones,

but those big dreams, those ones that

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are important for our legacy, that are

important for our life fulfillment,

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we are not getting traction on them.

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And it can be a huge confidence killer

to have those just kind of sitting in

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limbo, to not have momentum towards them.

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,

It can create this kind of energetic friction, or it's almost like itchiness

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under our skin, or discomfort.

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And so we can use this ah list to

remind us of our power, to remind us

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of our ability to achieve big things.

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So even though it might not feel like

you're getting traction on your goal

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right now, those small tiny things, those

small baby steps, are actually traction.

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We just don't acknowledge

them usually because we are

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looking for huge milestones.

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And I want you to stop looking

for those huge milestones.

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I want you to start breaking them

down not only into the tiniest steps,

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but into the tiniest accomplishments.

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If your goal is to build a thriving

business and you take one tiny step

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towards that today, celebrate it.

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If your goal is to get into shape or

to be more healthy and you actually

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show up for yourself by going on a

15 minute walk, celebrate that shit.

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If your goal is to find love this

year And you reach out to one person

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and have one date, celebrate that.

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Let's stop looking for what's wrong

and start looking at what's right.

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Look, looking at our tiny successes,

the tiny things that we're doing right

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to reach our goals, to get momentum

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and live fully in our power.

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, okay, friends.

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So I want you to make your AH list write

down all the things that you're proud

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of, all the things that you succeeded in,

make it even the smallest little things.

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This shifts our energy, it increases

our vibration, and it creates an

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energetic template that you can overlay

on other parts of your life as you

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start working towards those big goals.

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And especially as you go through

periods of struggle, because it's

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not always happy, happy, easy, easy.

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It's work, reaching our big

goals, whatever they are.

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There's often work and struggle

in there and that's okay, but

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once we have this template of.

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Acknowledging our huge successes, even

our small successes, then we can use

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that as a template and as a booster to

keep us going when we get frustrated or

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disappointed or when we have setbacks.

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Okay, friend.

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I know this is the simplest concept ever.

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I don't know why I had to share this with

you today, but it was important to share.

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So if this speaks to you,

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I want you to really take this to heart.

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And

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if you are ready to create some

unstoppable momentum in: 2025

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I still have a few seats left in my

upcoming course, Manifestation Mastery.

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This is the only time I'm offering this.

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It's a small group, only 12 people max.

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We're going to be working

together for 6 weeks.

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I'm going to take you through the

entire framework of neurosomatic

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manifesting step by step, teach you

how to identify and overcome all those

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little barriers that have been holding

us back so that you can create anything

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that you want to, absolutely anything.

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It's going to be a lot of fun.

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This is the only time I'm ever

going to offer it at this price

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and with this small of a group.

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So if you want some one on one coaching

with me, if you want to really step

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into your momentum and your power

and flow, then please sign up.

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We're starting on Sunday.

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It's six weeks and friend, I got you.

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We're gonna make some shit happen.

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Okay, friend.

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Until next week.

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Happy 2025.

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Set your visions big.

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Set your visions bigger than you ever

have because you have the power to create

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anything in your life that you want.

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I promise you.

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Until next week.

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Be well and keep manifesting

an epic fucking life.