Manifestation Loops: How to Stop Creating the Same Unwanted Results

Melanie (: 00:26

Hello my beautiful friend and welcome back and happy August. I hope you had a great July and I took last week off because many of you know that right now I'm down in Belize and last week I got to see and walk on our new property for the very first time. And friend, can I just share how fucking incredible it is to create something in your mind, imagine it hundreds of times and then finally get the chance to experience it physically.

It blows my mind every time. And I always think that this must be what it's like for an architect to visualize a building, create detailed plans, blueprints, measurements, go and select all the perfect materials

They make this plan in their mind and sometimes they have that in their mind for years until it finally becomes a reality. And that vision, that ability to bring something from the imagination into the physical world is just magical. And it's why I love teaching these tools because everyone has the power to create what they want in this world. And when you learn how to do it, it's really fucking fun.

Okay, so after the last episode, I received several questions and emails about manifestation loops. Specifically, people were saying things like, I've never heard this term before. Can you explain it more? What is it? And things like that. So I thought I would spend this week explaining manifestation loops a little bit more.

Now, first of all, if you haven't heard this term before, don't be surprised because it's just something that I use. Most teachers or coaches will say things like, you're blocked, your manifestations are stuck, or you're in a pattern. I think block is probably the number one thing that people use though. And we've all been there, right? We've all been stuck in a pattern or struggled in one area of life because that's part of being human, quite honestly. But I prefer the term

manifestation loop because I feel like it's a more accurate description of what's really going on. And here's why. We are never really stuck. We're never stuck. We're never blocked. We are manifesting all the time. But so often what happens is we're just creating the same shit over and over without realizing it. So when we do this, it will really feel like we're stuck. It will feel like we're blocked or like nothing's happening.

But I assure you, things are happening. You are creating just very often, you're creating a lot of the same unwanted stuff. It's almost like being stuck in that movie Groundhog Day where Bill Murray just keeps getting stuck in the same day over and over again. That's what it can feel like.

So how does this happen? Because obviously we don't do this on purpose. No one wants to be stuck in a manifestation loop. So this week I'm going to walk you through a common manifestation loop and explain how it happens and how you can start to break free from this pattern if you find yourself here. first before I go on, let me give you a little analogy because sometimes talking about something completely different

kind of help the concept to kind of sink in a little bit deeper. So I want you to imagine that you are planning to create a garden. And let's say you want to grow tomatoes. So you get ready to plant your seeds, all the dirt ready, but then you realize you only have corn seeds. Now, obviously you would never say, all right, well, let me just try these out and see if I get tomatoes. No, you wouldn't do that because

We all understand that you need to plant tomato seeds in order to grow tomatoes. That's obvious, right? You wouldn't keep planting corn expecting to get tomatoes to sprout. And so we understand this about gardening and seeds and nature, but often we don't make the same connection when it comes to our minds. What happens is we're often planting negative thoughts, negative expectations or beliefs, and then we expect to get a different result.

But it doesn't work that way because our beliefs are actually molding and creating our experience. Now I realize this might sound a little bit fucking woo woo, but let me break it down for you and show you how a manifestation loop will often present itself.

okay, here we go. People often wanna manifest in one of three key areas. It's usually health, wealth, or relationships. These are the main areas that we typically focus our energy and intentions. But today, I'm just gonna focus on relationships, because that's a big one for people, and how negative manifestation loops can play out in this

But as I go through this, I want you to remember that you can really apply this concept to any part of your life. You can just overlay the same thing on top of it. So let's start with an example. A client might come to me and say, Melanie, I am so smart. I'm successful. have the career, the house, the car, everything, but I just can't find a good partner.

Now, whether they're looking for a man, a woman, any partner, the story often goes the same way. They'll start talking about things like how the dating apps suck. The dating scene is terrible. There's no good partners out there. Then the divorce rate is so high and on and on.

And then typically I will stop them and I'll ask them to describe what they actually want in a partner. is very, very rare that someone can clearly articulate what they're actually looking for. Usually they'll start listing all the things they don't want, even though it's kind of masked in a positive way, right? They'll say things like, well, I want someone who's loyal and doesn't cheat.

Or I want someone who doesn't have a lot of debt. Well, yeah, that sounds great, but what is the focus? The focus is debt. There are many ways that we describe what we want by actually focusing on what we don't want. And it can be really subtle and sometimes it can be hard for us to recognize that. So I want you to see how this sets us up to be stuck in a manifestation loop, because I want you to think of your thoughts and your words as seeds.

and your mind is like this very, very fertile soil. So to harvest something you truly want, whether it's a love relationship or anything else, you need to be planting seeds that are really, really crystal clear about what you want. Again, we're not gonna plant corn seeds and get tomatoes. We're not gonna plant the divorce rate and get a happy marriage. That doesn't work.

because our brains don't work in negatives and neither does the universe. if I told you, don't think about a pink elephant, don't think about elephants at all. I don't even want you to think about that. Of course, what happens? That's all you can think about, right? This is exactly how our brains operate and this is how the universe operates. When we focus on what we don't want, we end up giving our energy and attention to those things and they becomes

the seeds that we plant in our subconscious mind. And friend, our subconscious mind is a powerful fucking creator.

So let's get a little bit deeper. If you're always thinking, I don't want a partner who cheats or I don't want someone with a lot of debt, your mind is still stuck on cheating and debt. These are the seeds you're planting in that fertile subconscious soil of your brain. And guess what? That's probably what you keep attracting into your life.

Have you ever noticed that, especially with relationships, it's very common that we leave one relationship and go to another and then maybe go to another. And usually it's different faces, but it's kind of the same situation. It's kind of the same energy or pattern that's happening. And so again, you can overlay this onto any quote pattern or quote block where you feel stuck. Because again, I want you to remember it's not a block.

It's just a manifestation loop. And is really great fucking news because what it means is that you are a powerful creator and that you're not stuck.

You don't have to go through all these processes of fixing yourself or doing all of this work. All we need to do is change our thoughts, change our beliefs, change our mind. And that is work, but it's work that you can do. It doesn't require anyone else except for

You have the power to keep creating the same thing over and over again. And you also have the power to create something new, but that requires you have to think something new. You have to believe something new. You have to do something new.

And changing our thoughts, even though it is work, it's almost like, changing the station on the television or changing a movie on Netflix.

would never have a bad show come onto your television and just sit there and have a pity party because you're stuck watching this horrible show. No, you would pick up the remote and you would change the channel. And that's what we have to do in our mind. It is actually that easy. Just takes a little bit of work and it takes a little bit of practice.

Alright friends, so I want you to think about an area where you might feel stuck in your life. And I want you to really examine with honesty, what are the stories that you keep telling yourself about that situation? What are the beliefs that you have? It's really important to examine those and to get really fucking honest with ourselves

about the story that keeps playing in our

And then once you know what that story is, the next time you catch yourself focusing on what you don't want, I want you to pause and consciously redirect your thoughts and ask yourself, what do I really want? And then put your energy there. That's it. It's a practice that it takes time, but I promise you it's worth

I promise you're not stuck. You're never blocked. You're just creating the same thing over and over. And with practice, you can change that. All right, my friend, I know this was short and sweet, but I hope this clarifies a little bit more about what a manifestation loop is. If you have any questions about this or if I didn't make it clear enough,

because I know it seems a little boo -boo even though it's actually very neuroscience based, Then shoot me an email or send me a DM. I promise I will respond. Right now my responses are a little slow because I'm still down in Belize and the monkeys are outside every day and I'm getting very distracted looking at all the abundance around me. It's a lot of fun,

Anyway, okay, I will see you next week. Have a beautiful start to August and.

Enjoy your week!