Turning Pro with Your Potential - Stop Treating Your Dreams Like a Hobby

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Welcome to the Magnetic Creator Podcast.

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I'm your host, Melanie Mishler, and each

week we have intimate conversations about

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the things that matter most in life.

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My superpower is helping you

remember who you truly are,

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a powerful, magical creator.

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I give you proven tools to help you

get unstuck and manifest a life that

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sets your heart on fucking fire.

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Are you ready?

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Let's go.

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Hello, hello, and happy

December, my beautiful friend.

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Before we start, I have to just straight

up apologize for any audio background

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noise or any audio quality today.

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Cause.

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We are down at our home in Belize

for the winter and it is loud here.

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It is very, very loud in the jungle.

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There's monkeys howling.

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There's the neighbor's dog is barking.

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The hummingbirds are really loud.

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Cicadas, all the things are happening , I

don't yet have my office set up properly

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cause we're not here full time yet.

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So, um, I apologize, but let's get

to it I know this is a month when

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everything gets a little crazy, right?

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It's easy to get swept up in the

holidays and really, really common

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to push our dreams and our goals out

past the holidays out until January.

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But I'm going to invite you to

do something totally different

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this year because I've designed

this month to set the stage for

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your most extraordinary year yet.

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instead of waiting until January to

think about what you want next, I

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invite you to join me this month.

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Each week on the podcast, we're

gonna be talking about breaking

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through your limits, I'll also be

hosting my free vision board workshop

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again, and it was so much fun.

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So if you miss the first one,

please sign up for that one.

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It's on December 15th.

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It's totally free.

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Just head to the show notes or my website.

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And then at the beginning of the

year, I'm also going to be hosting

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my first ever Breakthrough event.

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So, um, this is designed to help you

create the foundation for your best year.

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And I mean, not just another good year,

not just another successful year, but a

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year where you finally step in to your

full power, to your full potential.

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And today's episode is the perfect

place to start because we're talking

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about the difference between approaching

your dreams as an amateur versus

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turning pro with your potential.

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I Learned this concept from Steven

Pressfield, and if you don't know

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his work, I'll put a link to my two

favorite books of his in the show notes.

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And trust me, you want to check them out.

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when I first read his work years ago,

it lit a fire in me and really put a

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voice to how I was holding myself back.

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And so let's talk about what this concept

means to turn pro with your vision, with

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your life's work, with your potential.

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Here's how Stephen explains it

in a nutshell, He says amateurs

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treat their dreams like a hobby,

like something they'll get to

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when everything else is handled.

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They make excuses, they dabble this can

also look like spending weeks perfecting

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your website or your logo, and that's the

same website that no one will ever go to

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because no one knows it exists, right?

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But a pro will show up for their

potential like it's their fucking

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job Because it is they understand

that their gifts their vision their

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deeper calling It's not optional.

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That's their work.

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And when I say work, I

mean like life's work.

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An amateur waits for motivation.

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They will chase perfection.

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They need to feel ready.

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But the pro knows that readiness

and perfection never happens.

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In fact, they're just excuses

that an amateur will use to

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avoid showing up because of fear.

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One of my favorite quotes from this

book is He says the professional

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does not wait for inspiration.

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He acts in anticipation of it.

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He knows that when the muse sees his

butt in the chair She will deliver I

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want you to think about that because how

many mornings have you waited to feel

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motivated before starting or how many

dreams have you put on hold or put on the

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back burner until you feel quote ready?

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The truth is transformation

doesn't happen when we feel ready.

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It happens when we commit to showing up

for ourselves even before we feel ready.

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this friend is what separates women

who keep talking about their dreams

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or keep pushing off their dreams

until next year from the ones who

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are actually bringing them to life.

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The pros understand that inspiration

follows action, not the other way around.

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My coach Piper used to say this

to me all the time when I would be

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spinning my wheels in perfectionism.

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She would say, clarity comes

from action and she was so right.

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And here's something else that Pressfield

talks about that might hit close to home.

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It did for me, at least.

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Sometimes we become pros in

what he calls shadow careers.

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And what this means is that we will

pour our heart, we'll pour all of our

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professional level like dedication

and work into something that's really

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close, but not quite our true calling.

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here's a couple examples.

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We might go to work for someone else

and expertly manage their business

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while our own secret business dreams

stay hidden away in our journal, right?

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We don't do any work on our own business.

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Or maybe we become a writing teacher,

but never actually sit down to write

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the novel that you've been dreaming of.

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And here's a fascinating

part with shadow careers.

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You can be really, really good at them.

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You can show up with

professional level commitment.

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You could be working really hard, building

systems, be super reliable and consistent.

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You have all the pro habits, but here's

the thing, you're just applying them to

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the more safe option, to the comfortable

choice, to the path that doesn't require

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us to actually face our fears and to

actually step into our own full potential.

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because becoming a pro at something

similar or parallel to your calling,

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it's always going to feel a lot safer

Then facing the resistance that comes

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with stepping into your true work.

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It's kind of like it will give us

just enough satisfaction to quiet

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that inner voice to like silence

it down a little bit while keeping

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our dreams at a safe distance.

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And this is why some of the most

capable, committed women I know still

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have this like nagging sense of more.

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They want more.

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They know they're destined for more.

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And they're pros at everything

except the one thing that their

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soul is calling them to do.

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But , here's the mindset

shift that changes everything.

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When you realize that your dreams are not

hobbies waiting for the perfect condition.

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They're not optional extras that you

get to focus on when life calms down.

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This is your work, your real work.

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And the moment that you truly

understand that, everything will get

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very, very simple because here's what

happens when you make that choice.

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When you turn pro with your

potential, you suddenly stop

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negotiating with your dreams.

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You stop saying maybe, or when I have

more time, or when the kids go off

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to college, you will start treating

your visions with the same commitment

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that you give to your most

important responsibilities.

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so how do we begin?

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here's something really interesting

that Steven talks about turning pro.

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He says, when you turn pro, everything

gets very, very simple because

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All the drama fades away, all the

what ifs, all the maybes, all the

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excuses, they just all dissolve

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Because pros don't have time for drama.

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They don't debate whether

they're going to show up.

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They don't like him and ha about it.

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They don't negotiate

with their resistance.

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They just do the fucking work.

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think about it.

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Professionals don't wake up in

the morning and ask themselves

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if they feel like going to work.

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They don't wait for the perfect

moment to start their day.

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They don't have to lose 10 pounds, wait

till the holidays are over, wait for

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fucking mercury to be out of retrograde.

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They simply begin.

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And that simplicity is so freeing.

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And this doesn't mean you

have to burn everything down.

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if you're currently in a shadow career

or if you haven't even touched on that

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true calling that's deep inside you,

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You can start right where you are.

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It's a decision that you just make

right now with deliberate choices.

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That could look like dedicating your

first 30 minutes to working on your

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passion project or blocking out two hours

every weekend to work on your calling.

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The size of the block of time is less

important than the mindset behind it

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because this is non negotiable time.

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You're showing for your potential

like it's your job because it is

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because no matter how much you like

play into the resistance, that calling

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that ache inside, it doesn't go

away because it's not supposed to.

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It's your full potential calling

you forward and you can numb

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it out as much as you want.

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You can pretend it's not

there, but friend, it's there.

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It's calling And it's there for a purpose.

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Okay, friends.

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So if you felt a little stirring in

your soul as you listened to this

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episode today, that's your pro self.

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It's ready to emerge.

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And I've designed December

specifically to help you make that

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transition from amateur to pro.

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So please go sign up and join

me on December 15th for my

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next vision board workshop.

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It's vision boards that actually work and

not just for the cars and the vacations

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we're talking about for the big stuff.

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We're going to dive deep into what's been

holding you back and create a concrete

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plan to step fully into your power in 2025

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and if you're called to go even

deeper, I do have two spots opening

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up for one on one coaching And

you can book a free consultation

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in the show notes or on my website.

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here's my invitation friend.

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Don't wait until January.

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Don't keep putting off your

dreams until after the holidays.

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or until the first of the year,

take one step, make a decision

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that you are even willing to

explore what it means to turn pro.

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Grab a friend and join

the vision board workshop.

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It's totally free and also be sure

to check out Stephen Pressfield's

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book that I'll put in the show notes.

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They are so fucking good.

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All right, friend, This is

the time to decide: 2025

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Are you going to keep putting your dreams

on the back burner, putting your potential

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on the back burner and playing small or

are you ready to turn pro and step into

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your full power, into your full potential?

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All right, friend, until

next week, be well and keep

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manifesting an epic fucking life.