The Power of Crystal Clear Desires

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Are you ready? Let's go. Hello my beautiful friend and welcome back to the podcast. Today we're gonna dive into something that's so important when it comes to creating a goal, reaching success, manifesting a desire, up leveling your life, whatever you want to call it. I often use these terms interchangeably, so I don't want you getting stuck on semantics, but the thing that's so important is getting crystal clear about not just what you want, But why you want it?

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I don't want to feel stuck in my relationship. But then when I ask them, wait a second, let's get clear on what we do want. Often things get a little bit more vague. I'm very often met with a blank stare like, Hmm, I'm not really sure. And this is really common. A lot of people struggle to get very, very clear and specific about their desires.

And not just about what they want, but actually why they want it. And if this sounds like you, first of all, I want you to know that you're not alone, not by a long shot. I know me personally, I probably spent the first 25 years of my life being very skilled at focusing on exactly what I didn't want.

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It's how the law of attraction works. The more attention you give to something, whether it's wanted or unwanted, it doesn't matter. The more you give that attention to it, the more you call it into your life. The more you're going to see it, the The more you're going to experience it. So the first thing we need to do is to shift our focus.

It's great to know what we don't want because that is kind of the contrast it, there's a contrast that we can use to clarify our desires, but we don't want to stay there. We want to use it as a tool to get clear because friend that clarity is the. foundation for creating the life that you really want to live.

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I know this was a big thing for me when I was growing up because I was taught to want more is to be selfish and greedy and I should just be happy with what I have. And I think this is a really common experience, especially for women who We've kind of been taught to play small, to not take up too much space, right?

So today, what we're going to do is get crystal clear on your desires, on what you want and why you want it. And I always like to think of this as making a really good vodka. I know that's a funny analogy to use with manifestation, but let me explain this one Because I have a friend who owns a vodka company and the vodka they make is Amazing.

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truly want because the clearer you are, the more potent your desires become. Just like that vodka. The more potent they are, the more activated they are in your mind and your energy. And yes, I know this sounds a little bit woo woo, but stick with me. Because here's the thing, our brain will focus on what we tell it It's important.

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And because your brain is processing so much information throughout the day, It has to filter out the things that are not important. So if you imagine that you are in a crowded room with a big party, lots and lots of conversations going on, you obviously can't hear or pay attention to all the conversations happening around you.

But I'm sure you've experienced this. If someone says your name across the room, suddenly your ears perk up. You hear it because your brain knows that you're important. It's listening out for things that are important to you. Same thing happens if you ever decided to buy a car, right? As soon as you decided the car that you want and the color you want, you see that car everywhere.

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So the easiest way that I found to get Get this kind of clarity is to use an exercise that my coach taught me, which is the seven layers of why exercise. And basically what this is, is you just ask yourself what you want and then you keep asking why you want it and just keep distilling that down. Just like making a vodka, just keep asking yourself why.

Y, Y, Y, seven to ten times. And it might sound simple, but trust me, it is so transformative because what you are left with at the end is a pure form of what you really want, of what you really want to experience. Very often we'll start with something tangible or something that we think we want, but when we get down to the why, it's a totally different experience.

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So we have to get clear on one, what does success mean? But also, why do you want that? So what you would do is you would just start distilling down. Why do you want to be successful? Well, because I want to make more money. Well, why do you want to make more money? Because I want to have financial freedom.

Well, why do you want financial freedom? Because I don't want to worry about money. Why don't you want to worry about money? Because I grew up feeling insecure about money and I don't want that for myself. Okay, well, why is it important to feel secure? Because when I'm secure, I can relax and enjoy life.

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You don't have to wait to experience freedom and peace. You don't have to wait until you're successful in your business. And here's the flip side of that also. I know many people. who are quote successful or quote making a lot of money who don't experience freedom and peace, right? They might feel stuck in their career or they might feel stressed out on edge all the time.

So those two experiences do not necessarily go hand in hand. And by distilling this down, we know we're getting to the core to like the pure essence of what we really, really want to experience. I hope I'm not rambling too much and that this is making sense. So here's what I want you to do this week. I want you to take some time to get really clear, distill down the clarity for you on whatever it is that you think that you want.

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Whether that's more money, a different job, a different lover, a different house, we believe that we're going to feel better when we have it. But We can feel better now. We can experience the emotions that we want to experience now. This is an emotional universe. It's an emotional world. This is all about feelings.

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On how you want to feel, on who you want to be, on how you want to experience this one sweet life. Time is going by so fucking fast. We don't have time in this sweet life to just be wasting on going after things that are not going to bring us true fulfillment. Okay, friend, I hope you got some value out of this and I really, really hope that you will take the time to distill down your desires to get very, very crystal clear and make them potent.

Once you have that clarity, you're telling your brain, Hey, this is really fucking important to me. Be on the lookout for experiences, for things that match. This important thing. And guess what's gonna happen? Your brain will start giving you things that match. Things will start unfolding. You'll have wonderful, synchronistic moments.

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