Change Your Story, Change Your Life

Episode 49

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Are you ready? Let's go.

Melanie Mishler: Hello, my beautiful friend. Welcome back to the podcast. Today we're gonna talk about something that runs most of our lives without us even realizing it. We're talking about the story, the story that plays in the background of our lives. The story that actually really determines and creates the outcomes that we experience.

You know, the story, the market's saturated, there's no good partners out there. Fill in the blank. there's a million stories that we tell ourselves and it's more than a story in our head.

ually feel it in our bodies. [: 00:01:00

So here's how it usually plays out. You have a desire, maybe it's more money, a new job, a thriving soul aligned business, or a deeper relationship with your partner. Or maybe it's selling a business, a home, making a huge change in your life.

bills are piling up, or the [: 00:02:00

Sometimes it's experiences that were difficult or traumatizing Or that we didn't like the outcome. But what if I told you that the next phase of your life, the next experience doesn't have to be a replica of the past experience? What if I told you that you're calling in what you don't want because you're still actually aligned with that version of reality

instead of the new version that you actually desire.

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And it doesn't matter how many affirmations you say, how many times you write your desires in your journal, how many vision boards you make,

if the background track playing in your body and in your mind is, this won't work, or it never works for me, if you have an expectation of things going a certain way, then that's exactly what you're manifesting. Not because you're doing something wrong, not because you want to, but because that's how energy works.

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That's your active attracting point. ,

So let me give you a real life example of this is. One of my clients, we'll call her Sarah, she had this desire, a big burning desire to start this business, and she had done all the things, the branding, the website, taken tons of courses, but nothing was landing.

There was no clients. She had no traction. So when we started working together, I asked her a really simple question. I asked her, when you think about your business, how does it feel in your body

and what kind of stories are you noticing?

And without missing a beat, .

. She said, you know what, Melanie? Honestly, I should have started this years ago. It would've been so much easier then, but now the market's saturated. It's really hard to get clients. It's just, it's really hard and I think I should just go back to my old job.

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she really believed that and friend that right there. That's the work. It's not about more marketing, it's not about another certification. It's about shifting the story and shifting the beliefs and actually shifting that frequency that you're living in. Because once that changes, then everything changes.

. It's kind of like falling that first domino in a domino train.

And that's what I mean when I say if you wanna know what your beliefs are, if you wanna know what your active attracting point is, just look at your results, the ones that are showing up right now in your life because they're a reflection of your internal state. And listen, I know people push back on this.

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In fact, this might sting a little, but wanting something is actually the opposite of having it. Let me say that again. 'cause it can be a little confusing when you are walking around saying, I want more money. What you're really saying is, I don't have it.

You're saying that energetically, vibrationally, you are affirming lack your nervous system, your subconscious and your magnetic field. They're all registering the gap. Even when we can't register it in our brains and that gap. That's what's reinforced again and again. I want you to, to sit with this in your body.

having. Or experiencing. You [: 00:07:00

Everything plastic. It started with a mold, right? You have to have the mold and then fill it with the plastic and it becomes. The thing, the manifestation works the exact same way. And your thoughts, your emotions, your beliefs, your nervous system. That is the mold. That is the mold that's actually creating the reality that you're experiencing.

And if the mold is shaped like scarcity or like disappointment or like fear, then guess what? The result is gonna be more of the same. So here's the million dollar question. What the hell do we do? How do we change this?

The key is we interrupt [: 00:08:00

We stop reciting it like it's gospel truth, and we start choosing something different. Something expansive and liberating, and something that might not quite feel like real yet. But it is true to the next version of you, to the highest version of you, to your deepest desire.

It's almost like we have to give ourselves a lobotomy. We have to cut the cord on our mental loops and just be blissfully ignorant. The saying that ignorance is bliss is so very true here.

future can be based on your [: 00:09:00

And I know that's not easy, trust me. Especially if, let's say you're in your forties trying to call in a next level relationship, maybe after a divorce or a breakup, or if you're starting over in your business after burnout, or when your bank account looks nothing like your vision board,

but that right there, that is where the real work is. That's the moment where most people shrink back. But where you get to expand, and friend, this is why coaching exists. Because sometimes we need someone else to hold a vision for us until we're ready to hold it for ourselves. .

And that's what coaches do.

l of mastery. It asks you to [: 00:10:00

. It asks you to feel your way forward when the path isn't clear and to embody what you want before you have the evidence.

You have to move like the version of you who already has it, even when your bank account, even when your relationship, even when your inbox and your body have not caught up yet.

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the world around you doesn't match on any level. But that's the key to creating a life that actually matches your desire, not just the past patterns. So friend, I know this can be a lot, but here's what I wanna leave you with today. If you feel like you're stuck in a loop, , if you feel like life keeps handing you the same old story, but just like with a slightly different base, it's not because you're doing something wrong, it's definitely not because you're not trying hard enough.

It's because your frequency hasn't been set to your vision yet. And it's not something to shame, it's something that you can shift , and if you're ready to do that, then I really wanna invite you to my upcoming masterclass. Aligned Identity Shift. It's happening May 4th through sixth. It's online. You can come in your pajamas,

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It's identity level transformation. It's where our nervous system meets energetic alignment meets your big fucking dreams you can go save your seats. There's a link in show notes, or you can head over to my website, manifest with Melanie, and there's a link right on my homepage. And I hope you will join me because, friend, this is something that

. We're actually all experiencing it right now. We're all living our current attracting point. We're all living our current beliefs. Here's the thing. You don't need to earn your right to want more.

You don't need to go through 20 years of therapy to uncover the past, to figure out the future.

You don't need to keep staying in this cycle repeating the same patterns until something shifts. . You are capable of dreaming bigger, and you are capable of holding that dream of honing in on it and of matching that frequency.

So if you're ready, even if you're still a little scared, even if you're still a little like, uh, I don't know about this, then I'm here for you and I'm here to walk you through that path,

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honestly, we can create anything that we desire. We have to have that focus. We have to create that vibrational match. Alright, love. I hope this wasn't too much today.

I hope that it was exactly what you needed, and if this message resonated with you, I would love for you to drop me a note, drop me a dm, send me an email, and more importantly, if you know someone who could hear this message today, someone who needs this message, then I would love for you to share this with a friend.

And then grab that friend and go sign up for the Aligned Identity Shift Masterclass. Alright, love. I will see you next week. Until then, keep manifesting an epic life.